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“Man is not only a highly suggestible, but an unusually autosuggestible animal”   This was an insight articulated by Albert Ellis in his (genuinely) game-changing 1962 book “Reason and Emotion in Psychotherapy”, and it formed the basis for one of the foundational concepts of cognitive-behaviour therapy.  That the main reason we continue to suffer, and that our neuroses are maintained is because throughout our lives we actively and energetically keep verbally reindoctrinating

An argument for a whole side quest looking at lying, dishonesty and weakness vs integrity, authenticity and strength. The idea is that lying weakens you.  Lie less, get stronger; lie a lot less, get a lot stronger. There’s a very clear, linear relationship here. And it declutters your life, and your relationships, both with other people and more importantly with yourself.   Because once you stop lying, you slowly build up your integrity, as you start behaving in ways that are

I've noticed that people often struggle when it comes to choosing a therapist. There’s a strange mystique around psychotherapy, and even assertive and capable individuals can find this hard to navigate.   This is normal, but it bothers me, and when I’m asked about it in my day job, my advice is always the same:    Approach it in the same way as you would treat hiring a plumber or a builder.  It’s really no different, and there’s no need to buy into the hype and specialness ar